
I received a great question from a reader (who asked me to keep her anonymous, due to the nature of the question
) recently:
How do you get the co-worker who shares your office to stop asking you questions all day long (about work and non-work stuff), constantly telling you stories about her family and friends and interrupting your work (without ruining a great working relationship and friendship at the same time)?That sounds really awful, but definitely affects my productivity.
LOL
Sorry, I had to laugh. I have been in MANY situations like this too.
You can do things in a number of ways:
Direct and straightforward
Generally, my approach in life is to be direct, but in an office, I suggest trying another way first and only if, after numerous attempts, you don’t see a change, then you should be direct.
Office politics is alive and kicking, people, and if we spend 8 hours a day there, we don’t want to make it worse than it has to be, right?!
Clear but subtle
This is my preferred method.
I would pick my battles and only do this in the mornings, when I had a big and looming deadline, or at peak productive time.
Option 1
As you’re walking into the office, say good morning to everybody and then announce to Loud Colleague, “Okay, Jane, today I have LOTS of work to do so I’m going to sit here quietly and not move my butt until this is all done.”
Notice you haven’t said anything about how they are keeping you out of your work.
This works really well because…
- it’s all about you so the other person won’t get defensive
- they feel like they’re partnering with you to keep you working
Option 2
I’ve also just ignored the person and worked furiously and then when they say, “Marcia, are you listening?”, I can honestly say, “sorry, no, I really have to focus so I just blocked out all sounds”.
After a couple of these sessions, they start getting the hint that you can’t work and talk all the time.
Option 3
Use your iPod at work and pull your hair behind your ears so the earphones are clearly visible
This is actually more or less acceptable in offices these days. I personally don’t like it because I love the team vibe but in open-plan offices, you’ve got to do what you need to get things done.
Hope this helped!
How would you deal with this situation? Please share in the comments.
